If you’re one of those people who “glows” or feel as if the sun is shining out of your armpits when you’re pregnant, then you might as well stop reading now. If, on the other hand, like me, you feel as though every movement is a struggle and you would rather have teeth pulled than be pregnant (besides the fact that you get a beautiful baby out of it), then maybe you’ll find solace in reading this and knowing you’re not alone.
There is one thing that I like about being pregnant. One. Knowing a baby is inside me and feeling it move. That’s it. There are other perks; like everyone telling you “you’re glowing!” even when you literally just rolled out of bed and probably still have some Vegemite on the corners of your mouth. And being able to get out of lifting heavy things. But really, there are lots of things that really aren’t very much fun.
Here are a list of some:
• you have to move a LOT slower
• you get pain, often, and in many places (belly, back, groin, boobs, the list goes on)
• nausea/vomiting – for some unlucky people it’s all day every day until they have the baby (those people deserve a big fat medal, or better still a baby who sleeps well on the outside!)
• oily hair
• strangers touching your belly and feeling they have the right to tell you you’re big/small or definitely having a girl or definitely a boy.
• varicose veins
Now these things are common discomforts in any pregnancy but they are multiplied if you have had a baby before. This is because of the hormones racing around, that your body has experienced before, so has built up a good storage of memory receptors to respond more efficiently to the hormone levels. Therefore, you get MORE sick and MORE tired and MORE sore than you did last time or the time before.
Now, I am being overly melodramatic and very ungrateful for the blessing of pregnancy that I have been given. It’s not all bad. It’s just that sometimes it’s hard. And you feel alone. And you feel like everyone else enjoys their pregnancies, or that you should “enjoy every minute” like you get told so often. But it’s ok not to. It’s ok to not have fun. It’s even ok to not enjoy pregnancy altogether.
Here’s a couple of things I do to make me feel better:
• yoga (although I haven’t started again yet and I’m almost 20 weeks into my third pregnancy… Oops!)
• hot baths, often
• heat packs
• pregnancy massage
• stretching (though I’m terrible at remembering to do it)
• sleep in the day
• sleep earlier at night
• sleep with a body pillow (mine is just a long straight one but there are heaps on the market)
• move slower
• when getting out of bed keep knees together and roll onto side before sitting up
• don’t try and fit too much into one day i.e. spread activities out.
• coffee and chocolate
Subsequent pregnancies bring their own challenges. But they do end (even though sometimes it feels like the day will never come). And you get a little amazing person to look after at the end. Which is pretty special and totally worth the uncomfortable feelings. Plus, there’s an added bonus – most subsequent labours are much quicker and “easier”!!! So take it easy, allow yourself to grumble and try to realise and relish the moments when you feel good. Happy incubating!